Talk About Love

Everybody claims they have fallen in love but only a few are aware of how. They simply reason out that they love him or her just because they do—no further explanation. But then again, people fall in love in different ways; they also feel loved in different ways as well. Love sustains as the love given is reciprocated even in diversified way. Love is profound and I couldn’t agree more. And it’s the only word that only two hearts can understand. How? It’s through Love Language. Gary Chapman says, “People feel loved when a partner expresses love in the language that is natural to the recipient. If love is expressed in a different language, the message of love isn’t received.” Do you know your Love Language? Love Language is classified into five. Let’s find out yours.

1.       Words of Affirmation. This is done by professing and professing sweet words to your partner. It is a form of appreciation. Take for example, the husband or boyfriend fixes the portable charger of his girl, and the girl gives praise to his man. The guy would feel his manliness as his girl appreciates her. It may be the other way around in which the person itself expresses this love language by appreciating his or her partner simply because of the golden rule: Do to others as you would have them do to you. By then, there would be a great possibility that his or her partner reciprocates the love he or she gives in the same way.

2.       Quality Time. This type of language is about giving your better half your undivided attention. Some couples believe that being together and doing things together is the best way to show love. Focusing on your partner, if this is his or her language, will make her feel more loved than the gifts given. I guess the song Together Forever was inspired by this language.

3.       Receiving Gifts. Although giving gifts is already a human protocol, still some people feel more loved when they receive gifts. It’s not necessary that the gifts should be expensive. As long as their partner remembers to give them gifts on special occasions—or sometimes even on casual days—they feel more appreciated. Trust me, even if you’ll buy just some iPhone Accessories, she will definitely kiss you with all her heart’s content! Not that they are materialistic, or okay, maybe a little. But most often than not, they just want to reminisce things as they see tangible things given by their dear ones.

4.       Acts of Service. This involves a lot of creativity, time and either a great or can be just a little effort. Evidently, action speaks louder than words for these people. It may be as simple as helping him or her on doing dishes or any kind of house chores. Or it may be helping him or her to choose on an online mobile store about her phone and stuff. Acts of service need not to be that extravagant. It can be just anything like making him or her coffee in the morning as long as it is done with joy.

5.       Physical Touch. This is not outright the same as sex or all about the bedroom. The people who have this language are, not surprisingly, touchy. It can either be just pat on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face. Physical touch is a way to show excitement, concern, care, and love.

Although it’s good to know what our love language is, it’s better to know the language of our partner in a way that they’d feel the love you share. We must find a way to express our love that suits our partner for Chapman said, “Unless you speak the proper language, your message of love won’t be heard.”